If you happened to catch our Facebook page over the holiday weekend, you may have seen that I had surgery on Friday. Specifically, I was going in for a tubal ligation with complete removal of tubes. I know based on messages from a few people who knew before and then others that were just hearing about it, that some people thought I must have gone crazy. We have two beautiful girls, 4 and (almost) 18 months, but how could we be done having kids? Weren’t we going to try for a boy? I am only 30, didn’t I want to *make sure* I was done? There were other options besides surgery, hadn’t I considered those? After having kids, I’ve realized that people say anything when they don’t know the back story behind someone’s decisions. Luckily, I already planned to write this series when I made my decision.
The truth is that of course I’ve considered all these questions. I wouldn’t be making an educated decision without thinking of them right?
Let’s go way back for a minute. Before we had any children, I never really had a set number in mind. At least two kids and I wanted a boy. Those were my two “goals”. I quickly learned after having my first, that nothing in parenting is ever going to go how anticipated.
- My baby wasn’t going to sleep in our bed ….we co-sleep.
- Our kids weren’t going to eat in the car…they do.
- They wouldn’t throw tantrums in public….HAHAHAHAHHA
Nothing has happened as expected. We didn’t get a boy. It wasn’t all sunshine and roses. Parenting was and is so daggone hard. Ultimately, I have discovered that you have to block out all the naysayers and do what works best for your family and primarily yourself. No one else is carrying these babies for you and even having the most supportive partner in the world, the mom is still left to be the primary caretaker in a majority of situations.
Over the next few weeks I’m going to be writing about our decision for me to undergo a tubal ligation at 30 on Mondays and Wednesdays (2 times a week). You can follow along with #RoadtoTubalat30
If you missed any of the previous posts, you can read the entire series:
- No More Babies – Series Introduction
- After the first baby
- Second pregnancy – What the hell was I thinking?
- All hell broke loose
- The last 18 months
- The Scare
- Worries, Doubts and Fears about a tubal ligation
- It happened – recovery and thoughts after the procedure
I hope you’ll follow along! Feel free to tweet us at @wereparents or e-mail us at firstname.lastname@example.org if there’s any specific questions that you hope we answer over the next few posts.