Taking Time to Remember the Small Things is an important reminder that sometimes it great to look back and see how far you’ve grown together.
Picture from our first vacation together,2009
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“Time flies.”
It’s such an overused phrase. Sometimes it’s actually quite annoying to hear. But other times, you sit and think about just how far you’ve come or grown and it becomes a bit nostalgic.
I remember someone recently said something to me about 18 year olds now were born after the year 2000. I started calculating in my head. That would mean the year 2000 is almost 20 years ago. ‘scuse me?! I’m not old enough for that to be logistically true. Right? I couldn’t have calculated that correctly. But oh, it’s so true.
Then I started thinking about what that means for other things. How it means that I’ve known Larisha for almost 15 years, we’ve been dating for almost 10 and how our oldest is closer to 10 than she is a baby. How Sway? All of this seems to have happened in the blink of an eye.
I sat down and started thinking about what that means for the past 10 years. How we’ve grown into this family and the bond we’ve made. The things we’ve come to appreciate about each other. Or how we have taught each other about so many different things. It’s easy for us to keep moving forward every day, but some days it’s nice to take the time to remember the small things.
Remember the things that you have both taught each other
It’s easy to remember the things that you have taught your children. They are constantly showing you. But sit down and think about the things that you have learned from your significant other. How have you grown over the course of your relationship? What things have made you better because they have shown you.
For me the list is great. We were young when we met and we both still had a lot of growing to do.
I learned how to love someone more than I love myself. When we got together, I was young. I didn’t know how to really care for another person and I was pretty self-centered. However, over the years, I have realized that our relationship has grown stronger when we have both learned to put ourselves aside for the betterment of us and our family.
Beyond just her though, I learned how to love more deeply than anything. She made me a father. She brought not one, but two little girls into my life (I didn’t even think I wanted girls!). I would do anything for my family and it’s funny to look back on that. It was TERRIFYING to think I was going be a dad. I mean I legit didn’t even know how to hold a baby and someone was going to give me a whole one to take care of!? How!? But because of her, I have learned and grown so much.
I have learned a love of traveling. This is one of the biggest ones that I have learned. I was such a homebody. There was no appreciation for exploring. However, she showed me that traveling can be one of the greatest things. And because of that and her passion for traveling, I have seen some really cool things. I have also picked up on a previous passion – my photography. So many things have come from just her asking me step out of the boundaries.
Breaking down boundaries, letting down guards
One of the biggest things I’ve learned is that you have to let boundaries down sometimes in order to be a better person. One of the biggest guards I’ve had to let down was trying new foods. Textures and tastes and unknowns about food are so weird to me, but I love that she has helped me step out of my comfort zone. If you’ve watched any of her live videos, she regularly talks about me being picky (and I admit I am), but I’m more open now because of it.
But this is one of the areas that we have really grown and bonded together. She’s introduced me to really cool restaurants and things like homemade pizza, and I’ve introduced her to cooler things like ackee, avocados (can you believe she didn’t eat them before we met?!), and a variety of jerk and curry dishes.
Even on a more simple note, I introduced her to a love of tea and she introduced me to one of my favorite blends. Constant Comment from Bigelow. It’s Curiously Different. Impossible to Forget. Just like her. It has hints of oranges and other spices that make it great for any day of the week. It shows that it’s even the simple things that make a relationship so special. Every time that I go to make a cup, I am reminded of the memories of how we have grown together.
I’m curious after reading this how you think that you have learned and grown since being in a relationship with your significant other?
Sometimes it’s great to really stop and spend time taking time to remember the small things.
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