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Everything You Need to Know about the Miko 2 Robot

November 27, 2019 by Larisha Campbell Leave a Comment

One of the best gifts for kids this year is the Miko 2, a fun and interactive learning robot! Check out everything you need to know about the Miko 2 Robot. 

This post is sponsored by Miko 2. 

We have officially reached the point in life where we are both adamant that our kids need no other toys. Very few exceptions are made to that rule. If you are like us, then you are going to want to consider the Miko 2. 

Kids are overwhelmed and inundated with toys constantly today.  Not only that, but the over stimulation of constantly receiving more and more gifts usually leaves things unplayed with. 

We really prefer to gift our kids things that fall into one of three categories: 

  • Educational gifts (games, snap circuits, clay)
  • Experience/Travel gifts (museum memberships, theatre tickets, trips)
  • Outdoor gifts (new bikes, skates, sports balls, climbing equipment)

If it doesn’t fit into one of those categories, they usually don’t get it and very few exceptions are made.  

Before you come into the comments, trust us, that our kids aren’t deprived of anything. They have plenty of toys and they are also fully aware of why and understanding. Very rarely at this point do we get push back from them. 

Luckily, there are still really cool ways to stick to our preferred categories of gifts and still have really excited and happy kids. 

Introducing Miko 2

Miko 2 is a fun and friendly robot that uses conversational learning to educate and entertain.  So kids, while having fun, are still learning a lot of information from their new friend. 

Miko 2 weighs just under 2 lbs!  Don’t let its small size fool you though.  It’s packed full of fun! 

Watch our fun video with Miko 2:  

What are the recommended age ranges for Miko 2?

Miko 2 is recommended for ages 5 to 10 years old. 

There are no small parts and it comes completely assembled.   It’s perfect for our 6 year old, but our 4 year old still really enjoys it. And it definitely can have educational benefits for children older than 10 as well. 

What can Miko 2 do?

Especially because we homeschool, we are super interested in learning toys.  Miko 2 is an amazing homeschool tool; but even if you don’t homeschool it is super fun! 

Need help with a homework question? Miko 2 can probably answer. 

Need a few minutes of a break from homeschool or does your kid need to be occupied while you finish up dinner?  Let Miko 2 do a dance party!

Want to set a timer so your kid knows how long to brush their teeth? Miko 2 can set a timer!  

There are a ton of things that Miko 2 can do and it’s even updated every 15 days to add even more!

What else can Miko 2 do?

There are so many things Miko 2 can do, it’s impossible to list them all; however, some of the ones we have found to be fun are: 

  • Have a dance party or play songs
  • Play soft music (great for background noise in homeschool room or for noise at bedtime)
  • Help with spelling
  • Gives definitions of words
  • Helps with calculations 
  • Tells fun facts
  • Tells jokes, riddles, and tongue twisters
  • Gives child friendly news and weather information
  • Sets alarms
  • Does multiplication 
  • Can be asked “where”, “why”, “how”, “who” and “which” type of questions
  • Can do measurements and conversions 
  • Teaches colors and shapes

Is Miko 2 safe?

Yes! Miko 2 is COPPA compliant and never stores any personal information. It uses end-to-end data encryption to ensure your child and your privacy are safe.

Miko 2 is controlled through an app with parental controls, so you are always in control.  It even allows you to move Miko 2 around via the app which can totally freak your kids out if they don’t know that. 

Another fun feature is that you can use the app to “call” your kids via a video chat. This is super fun if you are away at work or on a trip without them so they can see you. 

Purchasing Details for Miko 2 

Miko 2 is available for the first time this holiday season to North American audiences. 

It retails for $399.  Currently for a limited time, Black Friday week specials, it’s 50% off and costs just $199.  After the holiday special, use code “Larisha25” for $25 off the purchase price. The discount will not work with any other discounts. 

Order by the end of November and guaranteed shipping before Christmas. 

Shipping is free. 

Purchase at Miko.ai today! 

 

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Balancing Screen Time in a Tech Driven World

September 19, 2019 by Larisha Campbell Leave a Comment

Balancing Screen Time isn’t always easy but with the right tools and monitoring, the right balance can be achieved for every family. 

This post was sponsored by Google in partnership with the Forward Influence Network. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

I’m going to be real honest with y’all. Balancing screen time is not something I am always good at if we are being real with each other.  

I mean they are normal kids who want to watch TV and play on their computers, but beyond that I also work from home (sometimes I need them distracted) and we homeschool (they are both in online programs).  When you add those things together, it’s easy to see how too much screen time can add up quickly.  

But there are ways that we are working to ensure that they are having adequate balance in their lives. 

In turn, I’m learning that I too need more balancing in my own life. Isn’t it funny when that happens?  We sometimes realize that what we are doing for our kids is actually benefitting us as well?  It’s a win-win in those situations if I do say so myself. 

Being that I work in a tech driven world, it’s obvious to see how quickly my own time can add up. 

So what are we doing and how are we balancing everything?

First, I’m going to be upfront and say that not every day is perfect. Let’s just get that out of the way. This isn’t one of those posts where I’m going to say that everyday we are nailing it. Because that’s not real life.

But these tips will help on *most* days and that’s better than no days.  Am I Right?

Why is it important to work on Balancing Screen Time

At the end of the day, what really matters to you?  It’s important to find balance in your digital wellbeing because, if we are being honest, most of the things you are doing on the computer/phone/tv aren’t what is important.  

This isn’t to say your work isn’t important.  But 8/10 times you scrolling through social media or binge watching 10 episodes of the newest season of your favorite show isn’t going to help your wellbeing any (or your kids). 

What is going to help your overall wellbeing is getting outdoors more, spending quality time with those that you love, and ensuring that your home space doesn’t feel overwhelming to you. 

When you work on balancing screen time and in turn your overall digital wellbeing, then you improve your overall mental health as well. 

Whether you are working to  minimize distractions or unplug more often in order to be with your family, Google offers tools that can help. You can visit wellbeing.google to learn more.

5 Ways to Work on Balancing Screen Time for Kids (and adults!)

The first three ways are just suggestions and there can be broad ways to think outside of the box on both of them. 

  • Have a designated family time nightly that doesn’t include screens

    • For us, this means no phones at the dinner table or around our bedtime routines.  
    • Most nights it includes family reading time where I read a chapter book to them for a set amount of time or chapters
    • It can also include family game nights where we play board games or cards or do some other type of activity
    • Sometimes it also includes taking a walk together as a family 

No matter what your family time activities include, try to be intention that the hours surrounding dinner and bedtime don’t include screens. 

  • Commit to outdoor play time

    • If you are a stay at home parent, this could be a set number of hours you spend outside daily
    • If your children are in school, send them outside to play or take them to a park for 30-60 minutes after school every day to get them to decompress naturally from the stresses of school 
    • Pick a hobby outside together – maybe it’s planting flowers or a garden or building a new play area.  Find ways that you can enjoy each other together
    • Or find new outdoor activities to try together – like canoeing or snowboarding

  • Sign your kids up for sports or some extracurricular activity

    • We enjoy soccer and maybe gymnastics depending on the time of the year it may be swimming
    • However, if your children aren’t interested in sports, find anything screen-free activity that can do. Maybe it’s art classes, lego clubs, baking course, or music lessons. 
    • The library is a great resource for free screenless activities that your children can participate in. 

And finally, the last two are more concrete ways of limiting and balancing screen time for both your children and yourself. 

  • Set Rules

No matter what device you are using – tablet, phone, computers, speaker devices, etc – you should have rules. 

It can be as simple as no devices in your room and only 2 hours of screen time a day.  Or more detailed rules like no devices after 8pm or only TV on the weekends. 

Whatever you do is up to each individual family and will even vary between ages of your children. 

We recently learned about Google’s Digital Wellbeing Family Guide and think that everyone should print it out and fill it out the Family Guide poster with their families.  It’s such a great tool about screen and being better about your time and devices for the entire family! 

We have started to fill out our own and know that as our children grow older it will change, but it could be a great thing to fill out at the start of every school year.   

 

  • Set Limits

This is a big one, especially for teens and through adulthood, we really need to have limits and sometimes we need reminders of that. 

One limit app that I am really loving is the Youtube take a break reminders.  You can set in a time limit and when you reach that it will reminder you and suggest that you take a break.  We all know how easy it is to just keep clicking.  This is even useful for younger kids who love watching their favorite people like Ryan’s Toy Reviews or JoJo Siwa. 

Google’s Family Link also allows you to set daily time limits and bedtime hours so you don’t use your devices after those times. You can even remotely lock a device like your teen’s computer so they can’t use it after the limits that you set. 

I’m sure you may get a little backlash or some sass if you’ve never set limits before, but it’s up to us all to do better, be more aware and more present for everyone around us. 

To discover more tips and tools, visit wellbeing.google to find a balance with technology that feels right for the whole family. 

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Garden State Discovery Museum Birthday Party

July 29, 2019 by Larisha Campbell Leave a Comment

Thinking of having a Garden State Discovery Museum birthday party? This fun South Jersey birthday party location is a great time for all littles involved! Read on to see our thoughts! 

Disclosure:  This Garden State Discovery Museum Birthday Party is sponsored.  Thoughts and opinions are 100% our own. 

I have a confession.

I was dreading this year. The closer and closer we got to November, it was like a giant pit in my stomach. We were reaching this huge milestone.  Our baby girl was turning five. FIVE. How did this happen?

I feel like we were just announcing her birth a few weeks ago.  No way in the world has five years gone by already. I may have cried a little bit. Y’all, she’s growing so fast and there’s nothing slowing her down.

Serenity is a bright, determined, independent, and funny little kid. I’m so blessed to have her call me mom and so grateful for the moments we have and memories created together. I know there’s not much more time before I blink again and she’s 10, then 15, then off to college.  

We are trying to savor all of the time we have.

It was time for a CELEBRATION at Garden State Discovery Museum

We celebrate birthdays every year, but we don’t have parities for every birthday.  We only do parties on big occasions and five is a big one. I wanted a place that we could celebrate her and the great time we’ve had together.

Garden State Discovery Museum had everything we were looking for in a party:

  • Themed party
  • Ample time in a party room with a host
  • Dedicated independent play time in the party facility
  • Clean Up done for us
  • and more

How the Parties Work at Garden State Discovery Museum

The celebration was all about the birthday girl, so a few weeks before her party, I showed her party choices.  

They ranged from an art party to science party, princess party to pirate party.  Naturally, she picked the pirate party.  If you know our girl, she’s always had a fascination with pirates.  It was her first Halloween costume when she was old enough to verbalize what she wanted to be and she’s loved them every since. So pirate day it was!

See our birthday video complication:

When you have a birthday party at Garden State Discovery Museum, you get an hour and a half in a private room for just your party. During this time, you can have food (by there or bring from outside), cake, open presents and anything else you have planned.  This happened at the beginning of the party for us and I believe it at the beginning for all. 

One of the coolest things about your time in the private room is that a special guest (a pirate in our case) arrives with fun for all. Our pirate captain brought in a bounty of treasure in her chest. Inside all the kids were invited to make pirate hats equipped with their names and own decorations. They also got tattoos and a treasure before she headed out.

In total, the pirate stayed for approximately 25 minutes.

  

Our hostess for the day also helped us get our food handed out, played an eye spy game, helped with the kids decorating art pieces (tablecloths) and ended our time with a birthday song and cake.

After the Party Room

After the hour and a half inside the private room, our friends were allowed to roam the Garden State Discovery Museum for themselves and see what they could discover.

I will note here that once you leave the party area to go out into the play area, the party is pretty much over.  There is no way to keep your entire group together. And, while Garden State Discovery Museum isn’t a huge facility, it’s large enough that you just can’t keep everyone together.  

Updated information: I did learn that you are able to rent out the entire facility.  If this is an option for you, then obviously you could keep more tabs on your entire party.

There are so many play spaces set up for kids including:

  • theatre
  • art center
  • rock wall
  • sports area
  • dinosaur discovery
  • vet
  • diner
  • automobile
  • and more

We literally love the Garden State Discovery Museum.  Our kids would play they all day every day and constantly be immersed in a new learning experience every day.

Here’s some more pictures from our fun day:

Our big girl is on to braver adventures.  She’s growing before our eyes and we can’t wait to see the amazing things she accomplishes in her life.  She’s a fighter and she’s going to do big thing.  Our hope for her is that she never gives up, always stays true to her beliefs, and follows her own dreams and goals.

See you at Garden State Discovery Museum

Garden State Discovery Museum in located in Cherry Hill, NJ.  In addition to birthday parties, they have an amazingly interactive learning facility for children to engage in independent, role based play.

Currently, if you purchase a membership you get 10% off a party!  Learn about joining Garden State Discovery Museum today. We hope to see you there soon!

Update: Garden State Discovery Museum updated all of their party rooms in 2019! 

Our post was originally published on 12/11/2017 and updated in July 2019. 

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Healthy Pregnancy Tips to Own Your Pregnancy

June 25, 2019 by Larisha Campbell Leave a Comment

Congratulations! If you are reading this, you are likely expecting (or know someone who is!). We are going to be discussing healthy pregnancy tips to own your pregnancy. 

*Disclosure: This is a sponsored post on behalf of Inspira Health.  Thoughts and opinions are 100% my own. 

From the moment you find out that you are expecting, tons of thoughts flood your brain.  The goal that we have here is to quiet those thoughts a little and help you come up with a creative plan of healthy pregnancy with tips that are specialized to fit your lifestyle. You really need to have a plan for all three trimesters of your pregnancy (we’ll get into owning your birth experience in another post!).

What do I mean by own your pregnancy?  Well, it’s quite simple. You should be in charge of all aspects of your pregnancy and this experience should be joyful for you from start to finish.  We are going to share with you 10 tips for having a pregnancy experience that you dream of having. 

Now, we know that if this is at the beginning of your pregnancy, maybe only one or two people know, so it’s really your own thoughts that are all over the place.  Once you get further along and tell more people, lots of people start having opinions and ideas with what you should or should not be doing with your own body and pregnancy. 

We don’t want this to be overwhelming for you, especially when it comes to others, so the best thing to know is to tell yourself from the start and often throughout that this is your pregnancy and you are going to do what you see is best fit for both you and your child. 

10 Healthy Pregnancy Tips

1- Find a practice that is onboard with the lifestyle that you live. 

As soon as you get a positive pregnancy test, you should make sure that you find a practice that will suite the pregnancy that you wish to have.  For example, if you know you want a natural birth without an epidural, a midwife may be something you consider.  

It’s important to try to get prenatal care as early as you can.  You will be checked for a variety of things like blood pressure, weight, lab work, and urine sample, all to make sure you have a safe and healthy pregnancy. As well as an ultrasound to get close to an accurate due date for you. 

The sooner you are able to build a trusting relationship with your care provider, the better you will feel about this aspect of your pregnancy. 

2- Make sure that doctor or midwife is able to assist in delivering at the hospital of your choice 

In addition to the first tip, you want to make sure that the hospital that your care provider has rights to assist in delivery with, is on board with your pregnancy and birth plan. Check into their c-section rates, rooming in policies and rates of breastfeeding success and more if those things are important to you. 

At hospital maternity centers, like the three Inspira Health offers in southern New Jersey, they believe that you should have it all. From high-end amenities to award-winning nurses, they want to provide the best experience for expecting mothers.  

3- Ask questions and then ask some more

Part of owning your pregnancy and making healthy pregnancy choices, is to ask all the questions.  And if you don’t remember an answer, don’t be afraid to ask again.  Remember that this is supposed to be a joyous occasion for you and if you aren’t sure of an answer or not sure why the answer would be what your practitioner says is the answer, ask follow up questions.  You are paying someone to fully understand you.

This also goes back to the first healthy pregnancy tips idea above.  If you feel like your concerns or questions are being dismissed or not answered to your liking, never feel like you have to stay.  Find another care provider that is going to allow you to own your pregnancy your way. 

4- Eating for Two 

I know. I know. You get pregnant and then the joke is always, “it’s okay, you’re eating for two.”  While you are actually eating to feed two, you want to make sure you are fully nourishing your own body and your growing baby with the right nutrients.  This doesn’t mean that you should have a half dozen tacos every night because you used to eat three and now you double it. 

You want to make sure that you are making healthy choices like plenty of water,  as well as enough fruits and vegetables.  Fully cook food, limit caffeine and avoid a lot of sugar. Your care provider can come up with a plan for you for the right tip of diet, especially if you have food allergies or preferences, like a vegan or pescatarian diet. 

5- Exercise

If you didn’t exercise before, you are probably already rolling your eyes at me when you read that.  But unless there is a concern, you should try to get regular exercise during your pregnancy.  This can actually help ease some discomfort of pregnancy.  30 minutes of exercise a day is perfect and it can be anything from taking a walk or swimming safely.

Never overdo exercise, especially if you weren’t active before pregnancy and avoid contact sports and activities that may make you fall. Talk with your provider about a plan that works for you. 

6- Take the Nap. Go to bed early!

As a mom of two, I can’t recommend this enough.  Bank those sleep hours while you can; however, sleep is extremely important while pregnant.  Pregnancy is demanding and it’s normal to feel more tired than usual.  Take the nap when you can if you are feeling tired and try to make a habit of going to bed around the same time every night (not 2am though!). 

7- Take Your Vitamins

If you didn’t take vitamins before getting pregnant, it make be hard to remember now. The best way to remember is to set a reminder in your phone to go off at a time when you know you’ll always be able to take it.  

Ask you care provider what prenatal vitamins they recommend and take it regularly to ensure that you are getting all the nutrients that your growing baby needs. 

8- Avoid the Big No-Nos

There are definitely a few things that you want to avoid while pregnant.  No smoking, illicit drugs, or alcohol. 

Depending on your dietary preferences, you also want to avoid listeria that can come from eating the following foods: 

  • deli meat and hot dogs
  • raw or undercooked meats (like sushi)
  • raw eggs or recipes that call for raw eggs
  • soft cheeses like feta, Brie, and bleu cheese

Ask your care provider for a full list of foods and other products to avoid during your pregnancy. 

9- Track Your Mood Levels

It’s normal to feel swings in your moods as your hormones are drastically changing during the 9 months; however, it’s not uncommon for anxiety and postpartum depression to happen during the prenatal time and not only after giving birth.  Talk with your care provider about any concerns you have often and never be afraid to ask for help. 

If you have thoughts of suicide, please contact your care provider right away or call 1-800-273-8255 24 hours a day. 

10- Indulge in Self-Care

Once baby comes, your time is going to be even more limited.  Take the time now to get your hair done, get a prenatal massage, go on a last (or few last) vacations with your significant others and just enjoy the time you have before baby makes their arrival.

We hope you found this healthy pregnancy tips to own your pregnancy helpful!  Leave a comment below and let us know what your favorite tip is or if you have another helpful tip, we’d love to hear that as well! 

Thanks to Inspira Health for sponsoring this series of posts about owning your pregnancy your way.  We will be sharing more with and from them over the next few month, including the opening of their brand new facility in Mullica Hill, New Jersey. Stay tuned for the fun!

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Washington State Car Seat Laws 2019

May 1, 2019 by Larisha Campbell 2 Comments

THE GOVERNOR OF WASHINGTON SIGNED INTO LAW NEW CAR SEAT REQUIREMENTS IN APRIL 2019. THE NEW WASHINGTON STATE CAR SEAT LAWS TAKE EFFECT ON JANUARY 1, 2020. WASHINGTON’S NEW CAR SEAT LAWS ARE UPDATED TO ENSURE MAXIMUM SAFETY FOR CHILDREN.

It’s important to note up front. When states change laws like this, they aren’t trying to make parents or caregivers lives harder.  They are trying to put into law information that will make your family safer. The leading cause of death of children under 12 is car accidents. However, those deaths are preventable in many cases if proper car seat usage was applied always. 

***A Quick summary of the laws are provided at the bottom of this post.

BACKGROUND ON THE NEW WASHINGTON CAR SEAT LAWS

Agencies, like the American Academy of Pediatrics, state rear facing is the safest position for your child to be in a motor vehicle for as long as possible. Specifically, children should remain rear facing until at least age 2; however, as long as the child restraint system allows is best. One study shows rearfacing between 12-24 months is 532% safer than forward facing.

Washington has become the newest state to pass a law making sure that more children will remain rearfacing until at least two years old. On April 15 and 16, 2019, the Illinois legislature passed House Bill 1012. This bill makes amendments to RCW 46.61.687; also known as the Child Passenger Restraint Systems. Then, on April 19, 2019 the bill was signed into law by Governor Jay Inslee. The new Washington State car seat laws will go into effect come January 1, 2020.

The previous Washington State car seat laws only required drivers to provide a child under the age of eight (8) with an “approved” safety seat.

What Washington State’s New Car Seat Law Says

For the most part, Washington State Car Seat Laws largely remained the same as they have been for decades.  One section of the law got changed in this newest amendment and two new sections have been added.   You can also read the actual new Washington State Car Seat Laws 2019 for yourself.

This post is laid out in 2 parts – what the actual laws says word for word broken down by section and what that part of the section means in laymen’s terms.

The new Washington State Car Seat Laws bill amends the previous law and makes the following specifications for a child who is less than 16 years old:

What the new law says Section 1.1a–

A child under the age of two years must be properly secured in a child restraint system that is rear-facing until the child reaches the weight or height limit of the child restraint system as set by the manufacturer. A child may continue to be properly secured in a child restraint system that is rear-facing until the child reaches the weight or height limit of the child restraint system as set by the manufacturer, as recommended by the American academy of pediatrics.

What Section 1.1A means –

  • Children under the age of two (2) MUST remain rearfacing until they hit the maximum height or weight of the car seat set by the car seat company.
  • Once they hit two, if they are still not at the maximum height or weight, they can remain rearfacing (this is the safest way).
  • Please note: Even for children at the top of height charts, it is very unlikely they max out height before age 2.

What the new law says Section 1.1b–

A child who is not properly secured in a rear-facing child restraint system in accordance with (a) of this subsection and who is under the age of four years must be properly secured in a child restraint system that is forward-facing and has a harness until the child reaches the weight or height limit of the child restraint system as set by the manufacturer. A child may continue to be properly secured in a child restraint system that is forward-facing and has a harness until the child reaches the weight or height limit of the child restraint system as set by the manufacturer, as recommended by the American academy of pediatrics.

What Section 1.1b means –

  • Once a child is over 2 years old OR hits the maximum weight or height of their car seat, they may be turned forward facing in a 5 point harness car seat.
  • The child must remain harnessed in a forward facing seat until they are 4 years old or hit the weight or height limit of the car seat.
  • Please note: Even for children at the top of height charts, it is very unlikely they max out height before age 4.

What the new law says Section 1.1c–

A child who is not properly secured in a child restraint system in accordance with (a) or (b) of this subsection and who is under four feet nine inches tall must be properly secured in a child booster seat. A child may continue to be properly secured in a child booster seat until the vehicle lap and shoulder seat belts fit properly, typically when the child is between the ages of eight and twelve years of age, as recommended by the American academy of pediatrics, or must be properly secured with the motor vehicle’s safety belt properly adjusted and fastened around the child’s body.

What Section 1.1c means –

  • If your child in under 4’9″ (four foot, nine inches) and they have maxed out of the height or weight and are over 4 years old, they must continue to be secured in a child booster seat.
  • A child can move out of a booster seat when over 4’9″ when a lap and shoulder belt fits properly.  Please reference the 5 step test to see if the belts fit properly.
  • Please note: The law does not specific between a high back and no back booster seat.  It is best that child use a high back booster first, before moving to a no back booster.  Read up on the difference between no back and high back booster seats for reference.

What the new law says Section 1.1d and 1.1e–

These two sections just state that you must use a car seat or booster that complies with standards of the United States Department of Transportation and must be secured in the vehicle according to car seat company instructions.  To read the law, go here.

What the new law says Section 1.1f–

The driver of a vehicle transporting a child who is under thirteen years old shall transport the child in the back seat  positions in the vehicle where it is practical to do so.

What Section 1.1f means –

  • Children under 13 years old must be in the back seat of a vehicle that has a backseat.

What the new law says Section 1.2–

This section says enforcement of the law is done by visual inspection by law enforcement. To read the law, go here.

What the new law says Section 1.3–

A person violating subsection (1) of this section may be issued a notice of traffic infraction under chapter 46.63 RCW. If the person to whom the notice was issued presents proof of acquisition of an approved child ((passenger)) restraint system or a child booster seat, as appropriate, within seven days to the jurisdiction issuing the notice and the person has not previously had a violation of this section dismissed, the jurisdiction shall dismiss the notice of traffic infraction.

What Section 1.3 means –

  • If found in violation of the new car seat law, you could be given a traffic summons.
  • If you can present proof of purchase of the correct child seat as defined in above sections within 7 days, they will dismiss the traffic ticket.
  • Exception: If you have violated the law in the past, the violation will not be dismissed.

What the new law says Section 1.4–

  • Failing to comply with this law cannot be used as abuse or neglect. To read the law, go here.

What the new law says Section 1.5–

This section does not apply to: (a) For hire vehicles, (b) vehicles designed to transport sixteen or less passengers, including the driver, operated by auto transportation companies, as defined in RCW 81.68.010, (c) vehicles providing customer shuttle service  between parking, convention, and hotel facilities, and airport terminals, and (d) school buses.

What Section 1.5 means –

  • The law does not apply for vehicles such as:
    • taxis
    • passenger vans operated by auto transportation companies
    • shuttle services and
    • school buses

What the new law says Section 1.6 and 1.7–

Gives definitions about seats. To read the law, go here.

What the new law means Section 1.8a and 1.8b –

This section provides immunity from civil damages for certified current national child passenger safety technicians (CPSTs) who practice inspecting child restraint systems.  It does not apply to CPSTs who are employed by retailers of car seats. To read the law, go here.

New sections added to the Washington State Car Seat Law bill

There are two sections of the bill that were added and not simply amended the previous law.  Those are sections 2 and 3.

Section 2 describes that the Washington state traffic safety commission is to put together and pass out informational and educational materials that explain how to use car seats in vehicles and the risks of not using car seats. It also is to include where one can get assistance in properly installing car seats and the legal penalties if you do not use a car seat.

Section 3 states that the law goes into effect on January 1, 2020.

To read the law, go here.

Please note that you should be striving for maximums, not minimums. Leave your child rearfacing and in secured car seats as long as you possibly can. 

Quick Summary of Washington State’s New Car Seat Laws:

If you are running short on time, we’ve put together the main points below:

  • The law goes into effect on January 1, 2020
  • You have to use a car seat that is approved for use in the United States
  • Children under 13 must ride in the back seat when there is a back seat in the vehicle.
  • Does not apply to taxis, shuttles and buses
  • Law enforcement determine issuing tickets based on visual inspection and may give a traffic ticket.
  • **On your first offense, if you can show proof of obtaining the correct car seat, the ticket will be dismissed.
  • Children under 2: MUST remain rearfacing until they hit the maximum height or weight of the car seat set by the car seat company.  Once they hit two, if they are still not at the maximum height or weight, they can remain rearfacing (this is the safest way).
  • Children between 2-4:  Once a child is over 2 years old OR hits the maximum weight or height of their car seat, they may be turned forward facing in a 5 point harness car seat. The child must remain harnessed in a forward facing seat until they are 4 years old or hit the weight or height limit of the car seat.
  • Children over 4, but under 4’9″: If your child in under 4’9″ (four foot, nine inches) and they have maxed out of the height or weight and are over 4 years old, they must continue to be secured in a child booster seat. A child can move out of a booster seat when over 4’9″ when a lap and shoulder belt fits properly.  Please reference the 5 step test to see if the belts fit properly.

ADDITIONAL NOTES OF WASHINGTON STATE’S NEW CAR SEAT LAWS

  • If you are traveling to the state of Washington you are to adhere to these laws.

More Resources on Car Seat Safety

  •  You can view the Washington state Car Seat Laws full bill here
  • Car seats don’t have to be expensive! Find 4 Cars Seats that will rear face until 2 years old under $100
  • Read these 20 Common Car Seat Mistakes
  • Understand that Your Child’s Safety Over Your Convenience is most important
  • Here’s rearfacing car seat myths busted in case you don’t think it’s possible.
  • Child over 8 years old?  See if they are really ready for a seat belt or if they should remain boostered.

Disclosure: I am not a lawyer. The above information is not legal advice. Please consult a lawyer, child passenger safety technician, or your local municipality if you have questions. 

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10 Ways Dads Can Help with New Baby

April 24, 2019 by Larisha Campbell Leave a Comment

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Dads are an integral part of parenting and there are plenty of ways that dads can help new moms. We discuss 10 ways dads can help with new baby that will truly help mom, and the family as a whole. 

Parenting is no joke. Everyone thinks it’s going to be easy until the day that a baby is placed in their arms and then things get real.  You realize that someone is entrusting you with a whole actual life and there’s no manual.  It’s all up to you and no matter how many classes you took or books you read, that all goes out the window. For many decades, the main parenting roles have been left to mom. However, as we move into a new era, dads are helping more.  For many, they simply don’t know how to help because they were never shown. Luckily, there’s dozens of ways dads can help with new baby whether it’s baby number 1 or number 10.

The most important thing for dads to remember is that moms need their help more than ever during the first 6-8 weeks after childbirth. If a mother had a vaginal birth it’s a minimum of 6 weeks. If she had a c-section, it’s a minimum of 8 weeks. However, beyond that the first 6 months, especially after the first child, are a transition period that all mothers can use as much help as possible.  Mothers are known for being strong, so it’s important that you save this list and try to help as much as you can, even if she says she doesn’t need the help.

10 Ways Dads Can Help with New Baby

This list is great for whether this is the first baby or baby number seven.  If there is a new baby in the house, these are ways dads can help a new mom.

1. Know what postpartum depression and anxiety are and how it differs from postpartum blues. 

Baby blues are a period of a few days up to two weeks after baby is born that mom may be sad, scared, or feeling overwhelmed. Often times, mothers cry because of these feelings.  Learn more about how to distinguish between the postpartum blues and more serious diagnosis of postpartum depression so that you know when you need to reach out to her medical care provider for assistance. Never judge her for feeling this way.

2. Listen to her 

When someone has a baby, their hormones are shifted all over the place.  There are lots of emotions that come along with this, including anxiousness, fear, and guilt. Being able to open up and have someone by your side is critical during the first few weeks.  You can really help by just offering to listen to how she feels.

3. Tell people that want to visit that they need to bring a meal or do a chore

Lots of people want to come over, but rarely do they want to do anything but hold the new baby.  Speak up and ask for help from anyone that asks to come over, especially if someone asks if you need anything. “We would love if you could help with dinner tonight” or “I could really use some help with the dishes or laundry”.  Most people are willing to assist and it takes a load (pun intended) off of the new parents.

4. Do the household chores and errands 

The more you do, the less she’ll feel stressed.  If you remember only this line, it will help everything so much. Remember she just birthed a baby. Yes, you are learning the ropes too, but your organs aren’t shifting back into place after being moved for the past 9 months approximately.  Things you can do are the dishes, laundry, dusting, sweeping, mopping, and more inside the house.  Outside errands include going grocery store, grabbing household necessities like toiletries and cleaning supplies, more diapers, or dropping things off at the post office if needed.  Any way that you can reduce the amount she has to do will help.

5. Make the meals (breakfast, lunch, and/or but especially dinner)

By the end of the day, the last thing a new mom wants to do is prep dinner. If you do nothing else, helping to make dinner every night for the first few weeks will be a huge help. Ask family to help by bringing or having dinner delivered, make easy meals like bbq sliders or pasta salad.

6. Set up some type of home self care appointment.

Self-care is a thing most moms fail at. Moms constantly feel like they have to take care of everyone else, which leaves no time to take care of her. After having a new baby, self-care is critical because mom needs to feel like she still is somewhat of the same her that she’s always been, even though she’ll forever be different.  This is especially true after the first baby.

Some ideas would be to set up a postpartum massage, hair appointment or mani/pedi but with someone that comes to your house. Local Facebook groups are great for finding someone like this.  Make sure to get references and/or reviews of people. Another option would be to ask her if she’d prefer to get out of the house to do this.  Sometimes if moms have postpartum depression, being away from her baby terrifies her so having this in home will help.  However, some moms would love to have an hour or two out of the house and this is the perfect way.   Offer to drive her if she’s still under the driving restriction.

7. Try to soothe the baby yourself 

Mothers are known to naturally have maternal instincts. Women are raised to play with dolls, be babysitters, and natural nurture. So it’s only natural. However, that doesn’t mean dad can’t. Not only do dads need to learn to do this so they can bond with babies themselves; but, soothing a baby helps a mom’s stress levels.  If mom is the only one who can care for a baby’s cries, it becomes exhausting and overwhelming.  Offer to try to help.

8. Let mom have some me time

Whether mom wants to take a shower alone or take a walk outside, let her. Don’t ask her how long or rush her when she’s doing what she’s decided on.  You can and will successfully be able to take care of a baby.  If you need help, call another woman figure in your life whether your own mothers or another friend that is a parent you know, but let mom have a little peace of her own.

9. Bring her snacks

You may think that as soon as she stops eating for 2 people that she won’t be as hungry but that’s not true.  Having a newborn is demanding, especially if she is breastfeeding and/or has more than one child to attend too.  Here’s over 100 postpartum snack ideas for you to make and bring her when she’s hungry.

10. Keep her water bottle or glass filled up

Moms need to stay hydrated! This is especially important if mom is breastfeeding. You can easily keep her water bottle filled up with a Primo® First Steps Bottom-Loading Water Dispenser. It allows for the perfect temperature of cold water that is always readily available.  You can even set it up right in your room so you never have to worry about make long treks down stairs or hallways in the middle of the night.  It seems simple, but mothers are usually parched and need to make sure they are getting enough liquid. Primo water has a purification process that removes the presence of chlorine, bacteria, parasites, heavy metals, and travel levels of pharmaceuticals which means mom is drinking healthier and safer water for her.

About the Primo First Steps Bottom-Loading Water Dispenser (link)

  • If you are formula feeding, this water dispenser actually has a warm water option automatically dispenses water at 98.6-104oF, that is specially designed for mixing formula bottles. No more worrying about heating it over the stove at 2am…one touch of a button and it’s the perfect temperature for your baby bottle, every time, which if you’re a parent, you know babies are not patient when they’re hungry. The dispenser even has a LED night light to keep you out of the dark during late night feedings!
  • There is a child resistant safety feature for the hot water, so no worries if you have other children.
  • There’s a self-sanitizing function to ensure quality.
  • Set up took less than 15 minutes without tools or having to hook up to plumbing, and the 5-gallon water bottles easily slide in with the bottom-loading design. This makes it easy for you to move it from the bedroom to the kitchen once your baby has gotten older! 
    • The dispenser takes pre-filled or refillable 3 or 5-gallon water bottles (sold separately) and it was so convenient to find it at a retail location near me!

Whether you are on baby number one or you are a seasoned expert, these are all ways that you can help.  If you have older children, the Primo water dispenser makes it easy for everyone to help mom in the smallest of ways all while keeping everyone healthy.  Learn more and see your closest Primo location for pickup today! (link)

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Taking Time To Remember The Small Things

April 17, 2019 by Larisha Campbell Leave a Comment

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Taking Time to Remember the Small Things is an important reminder that sometimes it great to look back and see how far you’ve grown together.

Picture from our first vacation together,2009

“Time flies.”

It’s such an overused phrase.  Sometimes it’s actually quite annoying to hear. But other times, you sit and think about just how far you’ve come or grown and it becomes a bit nostalgic.

I remember someone recently said something to me about 18 year olds now were born after the year 2000. I started calculating in my head. That would mean the year 2000 is almost 20 years ago. ‘scuse me?! I’m not old enough for that to be logistically true.  Right? I couldn’t have calculated that correctly.  But oh, it’s so true.

Then I started thinking about what that means for other things. How it means that I’ve known Larisha for almost 15 years, we’ve been dating for almost 10 and how our oldest is closer to 10 than she is a baby.  How Sway? All of this seems to have happened in the blink of an eye.

I sat down and started thinking about what that means for the past 10 years. How we’ve grown into this family and the bond we’ve made.  The things we’ve come to appreciate about each other. Or how we have taught each other about so many different things. It’s easy for us to keep moving forward every day, but some days it’s nice to take the time to remember the small things.

Remember the things that you have both taught each other

It’s easy to remember the things that you have taught your children.  They are constantly showing you. But sit down and think about the things that you have learned from your significant other. How have you grown over the course of your relationship? What things have made you better because they have shown you.

For me the list is great. We were young when we met and we both still had a lot of growing to do.

I learned how to love someone more than I love myself. When we got together, I was young.  I didn’t know how to really care for another person and I was pretty self-centered. However, over the years, I have realized that our relationship has grown stronger when we have both learned to put ourselves aside for the betterment of us and our family.

Beyond just her though, I learned how to love more deeply than anything.  She made me a father.  She brought not one, but two little girls into my life (I didn’t even think I wanted girls!). I would do anything for my family and it’s funny to look back on that.  It was TERRIFYING to think I was going be a dad.  I mean I legit didn’t even know how to hold a baby and someone was going to give me a whole one to take care of!?  How!? But because of her, I have learned and grown so much.

I have learned a love of traveling.  This is one of the biggest ones that I have learned.  I was such a homebody. There was no appreciation for exploring. However, she showed me that traveling can be one of the greatest things.  And because of that and her passion for traveling, I have seen some really cool things.  I have also picked up on a previous passion – my photography. So many things have come from just her asking me step out of the boundaries.

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Breaking down boundaries, letting down guards

One of the biggest things I’ve learned is that you have to let boundaries down sometimes in order to be a better person.  One of the biggest guards I’ve had to let down was trying new foods.  Textures and tastes and unknowns about food are so weird to me, but I love that she has helped me step out of my comfort zone.   If you’ve watched any of her live videos, she regularly talks about me being picky (and I admit I am), but I’m more open now because of it.

But this is one of the areas that we have really grown and bonded together.  She’s introduced me to really cool restaurants and things like homemade pizza, and I’ve introduced her to cooler things like ackee, avocados (can you believe she didn’t eat them before we met?!), and a variety of jerk and curry dishes.

Even on a more simple note, I introduced her to a love of tea and she introduced me to one of my favorite blends. Constant Comment from Bigelow.  It’s Curiously Different. Impossible to Forget. Just like her. It has hints of oranges and other spices that make it great for any day of the week. It shows that it’s even the simple things that make a relationship so special. Every time that I go to make a cup, I am reminded of the memories of how we have grown together.

I’m curious after reading this how you think that you have learned and grown since being in a relationship with your significant other?

Sometimes it’s great to really stop and spend time taking time to remember the small things.

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Everything You Need to Know About Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event

April 15, 2019 by Larisha Campbell Leave a Comment

Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event is back from 4/22-5/4, 2019 and we are breaking down everything you need to know about the Target’s carseat trade-in event! 

The time has returned!  At least once a year Target does their carseat trade-in event! And it’s coming up quickly!  The next event will be held from April 22nd through May 4, 2019. Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event is one of their most beloved events for parents and there’s a good reason why!

Carseats are notoriously one of the most expensive things on the market when you have a child and usually you need at least two different ones as your child grows.  Plus, it’s one of the most important things that you are going to purchase.

Target originally introduced this event in 2016 and since then has recycled more than 500,000 carseats which equals more than 7.4 million pounds of material.

What Can I Take to Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event?

One of the top questions that we see are parents wondering what type of carseats Target will take for their trade-in event?  Target will take any:

  • infant carseats (bucket seats)
  • convertible carseats (carseats that allow rear and forward facing)
  • harnessed carseats (seats with a 5-pt harness)
  • high back booster seats
  • no back booster seats
  • bases

Can I trade in an expired carseat at Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event?

Yes! Target will take back any expired carseat at their trade in event.  Carseats expire, not to force you to buy a new one, but simple because the materials can wear down over time.  Most carseats have a 6-12 years expiration date on them, so they last for many years, but they do in fact expire and you definitely want to trade those in for a newer model.

Will they take a damaged carseat at Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event?

Yes!  If your carseat has any damage, whether from a car accident, left outside, food disaster and other mishap, Target will accept them during the trade-in event.

Where do I have to take my carseat for Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event?

You can take the carseat that you are trading in to your local Target location (make sure they are participating here first).  Once inside, there will be drop off bins located at Guest Services.

What is the benefit of trading in my old carseat at Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event?

If you bring a carseat to the Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event, you will be presented with a 20% off coupon. The coupon does not have to be used for a carseat only. The 20% off coupon can be used for a new carseat, base, travel system, stroller or other baby home gear.  According to Target’s website, baby home gear includes, high chairs, rockers and bouncers, playards, or swings.

The coupon is good in combination with other sales going on in the store, such as 10% off baby items, according to Target.

How long is the coupon good to use once I receive it?

You are able to use the 20% off coupon immediately upon receiving it.  It will expire on May 11, 2019. You are able to use the coupon online or in person.

What happens to the carseats that are turned in during Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event?

According to one site, all the recycled car seats taken during Target’s Carseat Trade-In Event are taken by Waste Management.  They then, make carpet padding, plastic buckets, and materials like steel beams for construction from the carseats. This is much better than any curbside pickup that your local trash pick up may do because typically the seats just end up in the landfill at that time.

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Just because you are on a budget, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be able to maximize your limit for a great seat.  These four carseats are all under $100 and will allow most children to rearface until 2 years old. 

One in four parents are using their carseats incorrectly.  Read up on these 20 Common Car Seat safety mistakes! 

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The Truth of Going from 1 to 2 Kids

March 27, 2019 by Larisha Campbell 14 Comments

The Truth of Going from 1 to 2 Kids is an award-winning piece about the realness in motherhood in going from having one child to take care of to now having two. All the obstacles that come along with parenting more than one child are daunting. 

going from 1 to 2 kids

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Folks, I’m just going to throw it out there and be completely blunt.

This sh*t is f*cking hard.

Okay, deep breathe.  Exhale.

You know how people are like labor is hard, but they don’t tell you HOW hard it really is and then you are laying (or squatting, or whatever your preferred birthing position is) on the hospital bed screaming in pain, yelling at your doctor that your vagina is on fire.  Same sh*t happened with this.  People were all, “oh, going from one to two was harder than when I went from 6 to 7.”  But they don’t keep it real.

So let me keep it real with you.

You will never sleep. And this isn’t like never sleeping when you only have one. You get the big kid down, then you go lay the baby down, the big kid gets up.  Then you get them both down again and the baby is up. For some reason your toddler decided she wanted to be one of 0.04% of kids that didn’t give up breastfeeding so now you find yourself tandem nursing them both and the big kid is nursing more than the damn baby.  LIKE. FOR REAL.  Just Stop it.  Except when I’m engorged and then I’ll happily let you nurse. Otherwise, back up and have another cookie.

Speaking of cookies, hide those everywhere.  I mean behind the couch, random drawers, under your pillow. EVERYWHERE. Because the older one is going to flip their lid at random times because you are naturally stuck under a nursing baby every 25.3 minutes around the clock.  Cookies help.  Chocolate preferably.  Make sure you put some extra in there for yourself, because you forgot to eat breakfast and lunch and it’s 3:00pm. Go ahead and order pizza because you forgot to thaw out the chicken for dinner tonight.

Once the baby starts crawling, the older one suddenly learns how to hit and bite and pinch and scream because EVERYTHINGGGG is THEIR TOY!  Everything.  Their actual toys.  The baby’s toys.  Your cell phone. Your socks, dishes, and underwear.  Essentially anything that the baby can touch is theirs and will cause them to go ape sh*t the moment the baby touches it.

Someone is not going to be showering.  Whether it’s you, the big one, or the baby, maybe all of the above, there’s just not enough hours.  It’s probably going to be the baby, because hormones have you smelling less than fantastic, showering the toddler get you 6.8 minutes of peace (add color tablets to the tub for 10 minutes), and the baby only spit up twice today, so she’ll be good for another 4 or 5 days.

Just start eating your food straight from the fridge. You will never eat another hot meal until your kids are 12 so just get used to it now. The literal moment that you sit a pipping hot plate of food down, your mouth starts salivating because you haven’t ate all day (except for the random slice of orange, 4 blueberries, 1/2 a pbj sandwich, and cookie crumbs your toddler left behind), the baby will start screaming.  And not like just a little cry, like full fledge scream like someone poked her in the eye (which also may have actually happened if you forget to sit the toddler down to the table).

But I digress. Somehow the moments where you catch them chatting, holding hands, and laughing together, make all the craziness worth it. And then, as if it’s not already hard, the mom guilt will kick in.  You will realize that the big one is growing up too fast, you haven’t spent enough time with them, and you will break down in uncontrollable sobbing to your significant other, telling them that you are a horrible parent and they will look at you like you have five heads.

Carry on. Be strong.

going from 1 to 2

This post won a 2017 VOTY award from BlogHer for best written short piece. Here’s some other posts that you may enjoy on our site: 

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Maybe We Should Stop Focusing Solely on College Admissions as “THEE WAY”

March 13, 2019 by Larisha Campbell Leave a Comment

Maybe We Should Stop Focusing Solely on College Admissions as “THEE WAY” is a post about how we are doing a huge disservice to our children by saying they aren’t great if they don’t go to college.  

A bomb shell dropped today. Celebrities and socialites were charged with fraud in paying their way into elite schools in order for their children to gain entrance into these universities. There are reports that they bribed athletic coaches, admissions people, college entrance test personal and more.

Now, if you ask me, I thought this was something that we had all already known occurred. That’s how libraries and football stadiums get named after donors, no? Well to do parents have paid their way into everything. From varsity sports team placements in high school to a spot in Ivy League schools.  All you needed to do was pay off the right person and your child could have whatever they wanted. Regardless of that, there’s something else that we truly need to focus on in the wake of this “scandal”.

Why are we forcing children to think college is the absolute end all be all?

College was traditionally seen as something only the elite could do.  Around the time of the later “Baby Boomers” and “Gen X”, they started attending college more frequently and we saw a push from them for their children to go to college.  This push from them created a system that allowed colleges to continue to raise tuition prices to astronomical levels.  Tuition rates in the past decade have risen 213%, to a point where most people simply can’t afford it without going into serious debt. Yet and still, we see many people assuming that their children with graduate high school and go right to college.

Not only do “we” want them to go to college, but we want them to go to THEE best colleges and universities.  Community colleges are frowned upon. Ivy League and upper level state universities are seen as token ways to ensuring a successful individual. But is it?

We are putting pressure on our children to reach insurmountable goals in order to say “look at our trophy”. 

This is exactly what has happened in at least one of the scandal cases.  Lori Loughlin’s daughter said she didn’t even care about school. So why was she there, to put her on a pedestal of look where my child is?  Her daughter Olivia has almost 2 million YouTube subscribers and over 1 million Instagram followers.  She has endorsements, a makeup collection and more.  This sick and twisted version that our children have to go to college has to end.

Here’s a child that didn’t care to go to school and instead of her parents believing in a business she could create out of a passion (social media), they allegedly threw $500,000 away on a bribe.  Think about that. $500,000 you could have invested in photographers, coaches, and more to actually truly make your child a better businesswoman, but instead you threw it away and she will likely be kicked out of school.

And who wins in that scenario? Certainly not the child.

And thinking on a more normal scale, because most of us don’t have even $50,000 we can throw away on a bribe, doesn’t the same apply for our children? Why are we so set that this is the only way?

The average college student graduates with almost $40,000 in debt. They likely still have no idea what they want to do in life. And now have to find a place to live, apply for jobs, etc. All while now figuring out how to make these payments that now on average are $330 a month.

Can you not be proud of your child for getting a trade job? Could you not support them for starting their own business? How about we focus on teaching our children ways to become better and more responsible citizens of the world instead of saying my one goal is to get them to graduate and then off to the absolute best university that we can get them placed in when they turn 18.

1 in 5 college students are diagnosed with depression and maybe, just maybe, it’s because we are focusing that they must go to college instead of helping them see and nurture their talents.

Maybe We Should Stop Focusing Solely on College Admissions as “THEE WAY”

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